It hasn’t been very long yet in my serious search for a sub, but I feel like I’ve already gone through a huge number of frogs. Does a prince sub even exist? I’m not really looking for or expecting a prince. What I want is not a “do me” who’s sole purpose in finding a Domme is to fulfill their kinky sex fantasies. I want Someone who communicates with the big head, not the small one. When I ask questions, don’t come back with only a line or two. I want someone I can sadistically abuse a little. I want someone who will cater to me and I can use…..yes, even sexually BUT only I after I’ve known the person a bit and not have that as an opener to our communications. That will turn me off real fast. However a turn on would be intelligence. I do respond well to someone who pays attention to what I write and say. Someone who has given time, thought and brains in their exchanges to me is good thing.
There has been one person I’ve had good chat and email exchanges with. The funny thing is though, around the time I mentioned in a post here about wanting to keep any connections I make local, that I didn’t want to do another long distance relationship, I get a message.
The message is from a person who listed himself as living in Toronto. Our interactions are wonderful. We exchange thoughts and ideas. He hasn’t been long in D/s. He has sissy tendencies. He asks me questions and wants my opinion on things of these natures. We just seem to have a good rapport. There is one fly in the ointment.
A couple exchanges in, I find out he is not in Toronto. He is abroad for business. He is a consultant and doesn’t know when he”l be back. He says it depends on what happens with his projects. He’s not able yet to tell me what they are (so he says)
All through our exchanges, he has communicated to me as me being a Domme, him a sub. I have not taken on being his Domme. One I thing I believe is a D/s relationship should not be if there hasn’t been an official offer or request. It’s the respectful thing for both parties involved. Plus, I really dislike purely on line D/s. It’s not real to me and there are elements missing in this dynamic.
I’m not putting any hopes on this becoming anything. Especially when it is unknown when or if this person will come back to Toronto. I am still in search mode. When I get discouraged though, I now have Mr. Non Toronto to remind me that there is still hope. That there is someone out there who is not a bone head.
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